Do you feel dissatisfied with your life? You seem to be doing all the right things but you still feel empty? Are you struggling with anxiety, or have difficulty “letting go” or “get out of the past?” Are you numb or find yourself wanting to be numb, using substances, depressed, or dissociated? Do you find yourself engaging in behaviors that concern you, whether that’s restrictive eating, exploding at work or home, or cheating on your loved one? Are you seeking support because are afraid you may recreate the traumas you experienced as a child in your romantic and parental relationships?
Individuals seek out support for many reasons—conflict, stress, internal struggle, uncertainty, and feeling stuck in their relationships or in their lives.
I support people with:
Childhood Trauma or Emotional Neglect
Single Incident Trauma
Substance Use Disorders
Family Members who Use Substances Destructively
Peri-Natal Anxiety or Depression
Identity conflicts due to Gender, Sexuality, Culture, and/or Discrimination
Trauma due to Oppression
Harsh Inner Critic or Low Self Esteem
Grief and Loss
Suicidal Thoughts and Feelings
My approach is warm, transparent, direct, and attachment- and trauma-informed. I have a multicultural identity and work from a culturally sensitive and client centered approach that is informed by Intersectionality and Social Justice perspectives.
Do you and your partner keep getting into the same fights over and over again?
Do you want to fight less and have more trust, intimacy, and connection?
Relationships are hard. Sometimes we can get stuck in conflicts of anger, pain, shut down, and resentment. We do do not always know how to reconnect after a fight, or feel secure in the relationship. Unresolved trauma, pain, and loss can show up as high conflict, distance and loss of intimacy, affairs and/or threats of divorce. I support partners in beginning the reconnection process. I help partners better understand their own and their partners reactivity, triggers, and wounds that underlie conflict and heal them together, leading to more intimacy and connectedness. Emotion Focused Couples Therapy is an evidence based treatment that consistently supports couples in improving intimacy, trust, connection, and communication, and shows that couples continue improvement even after therapy has ended. Here is more information on the research. I have experience working with multi-cultural relationships, non monogamous relationships, parenting challenges, high conflict, trauma, substance use, eating disorders, and personality disorders within a couple’s context.
I really enjoy working with POC and multiracial/multiethnic couples, LGBTQ+ couples, and polyamorous couples.
Separation/Divorce and Coparenting Support
Sometimes, relationships don’t work out. We find we want different things or have grown too distant to want to reach back towards each other romantically. Sometimes there are inherent incompatibilities that cannot be overcome by love, communication, trust, and connection. Studies are finding that successful coparenting is a key mechanism in predicting mental health outcomes for children. Finding ways to coparent despite all the normal feelings that come up during separation and/divorce is hard, and sometimes we need help in improving communication, especially if we struggled before. Old dynamics of communication, and anger around change and loss can make it hard to collaborate during a time where children need us to be able to collaborate the most. I work with Coparents who want a cohesive coparenting relationship and struggle to get there. I help them consciously close the door on the past relationship, acknowledge losses, and improve communication so they can create their more separate lives and move forward with their family
Working with Adolescents and Families
Being an adolescent is difficult. It is an unsteady time that can be marked by exploration of the world, making choices, and making mistakes. Parenting an adolescent can be just as hard. It can feel so scary and helpless for parents when their children are hurting, in distress, or acting in self-destructive ways. Even worse than seeing our loved ones struggle is when we feel the walls they are putting up toward us, and we are unable to reach them to help, guide, and comfort. Sometimes these communication patterns of distress and conflict can be so entrenched that we do not even remember why we are so hurt or angry with one another. I work with adolescents with trauma, substance use, eating disorders, and/or suicidal thoughts and feelings and their families to slow things down, hear and understand each other better and create more ease and peace in families. Families are so resilient and capable of change quickly.
I really enjoy working with Black and Brown families, multiracial/multiethnic families, families with members who have LGBTQ+ Identities, and polyamorous families.